Quiet

Quiet

The Power of Introverts in A World That Can't Stop Talking

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This book demonstrates how introverted people are misunderstood and undervalued in modern culture, charting the rise of extrovert ideology while sharing anecdotal examples of how to use introvert talents to adapt to various situations. At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society, from van Gogh's sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer. Filled with indelible stories of real people, this book shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie's birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, the author charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the differences between extroverts and introverts. She introduces us to successful introverts, from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert." This book has the ability to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
Publisher: New York : Crown Publishers, ©2012
Edition: 1st ed
Description: 1 online resource (x, 333 pages)
ISBN: 9780307452207
0307452204
9780141970172
0141970170
9780307352149
0307352145

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helenebooks
Sep 23, 2020

A delightful deep dive and welcome affirmation for introverts, who are often misunderstood and under-appreciated. In the author’s words, “Love is essential; gregariousness is optional.”

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EliK1
Jul 29, 2020

This book was published in 2012 but it's somehow all the rage in 2020. Everyone seems to be reading it. I'm not sure what prompted that. I usually do not like non-fiction books, but this was a great read. VERY informative. It gives plenty of examples of how introverts act and how they are perceived when compared to extroverts. There's plenty of scientific research quoted to support the claims.

The only downsides of this book for me were:
1. The author often writes something along the lines: "But we will explore that further in chapter 7." It's distracting and makes you want to flip to chapter 7, but it also makes you want that info right there in chapter 3.
2. There is SO much information there that you can't really read it in one sitting.

I'm considering buying this just so that I can bookmark certain passages so I can return to specific details in the future when I need it.

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book1fan
Jul 15, 2020

It's part public relations campaign and part therapeutic session pep talk for introverts. It's helpful, for sure, as it lives up to its subtitle: "The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking."

I appreciated the informal test (20 true or false statements) to see if one is more of an introvert or extrovert, or a combination of both, as the author admits "we are all gloriously complex individuals" (Introduction, page 14).

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JJRey16
Jul 04, 2020

New information for me was the point how the US society values the loud and outgoing more than the contemplative. Puts things in a different light!

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TEENREVIEWBOARD
May 14, 2020

This book fired up a quiet revolution around the world. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking is a New York Times bestseller book by American author Susan Cain. Quiet shines its spotlight on the oft-overlooked introverts, introverts who recharge in solitude, like to wrestle with problems, and are often accused of being in their own heads too much. Quiet encourages introverts to use the superpowers instilled in their quiet nature, proving its point with many introverts who changed the world by doing so.
Bill Gates is an introvert. So was Rosa Parks. So were Sir Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Frédéric Chopin, Theodore Geisel (Dr. Seuss), Steve Wozniak, George Orwell, Steven Spielberg, J. K. Rowling, and so many other individuals who, by making full use of their introspective, creative natures, influenced thousands of people through an act of bravery, science theories, mathematical equations, wonderful books, stunning films, music, and companies.
Throughout the book, Cain highlights the unique, yet incredibly useful set of strengths introverts have, the “quiet power” they can tap into. Introverts can be leaders, writers, innovators, athletes, or perhaps all of the above: what’s important to remember is that sometimes, it’s okay to skip a party to spend time alone.
Rating: 5 stars out of 5
@StarRead of the Hamilton Public Library's Teen Review Board

JCLRachelW Mar 27, 2020

This carefully researched and gently worded look into introverts is much needed in today's loud world. Susan didn't create an "us vs them" atmosphere between introverts and extroverts but a method of nurturing understanding so we can all appreciate each others' unique abilities.

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kwsmith
Dec 01, 2019

The first half of this book dissects how introverts are different and shows how introverts are great at so many different things. The last part of the book descends into dull pop-psychology, discussing interpersonal conflicts involving introverts in marriages and parental situations.

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1aa
Nov 28, 2019

A terrific and much needed re-assessment of introversion! Alas I fear the people who most need to learn from this work will be the one's rather unlikely to read (or listen) to it.
The reader of the audiobook is excellent - a clear, smooth voice, but doesn't modulate volume much and can sound, if listened to for too long, that it can put one asleep.
There are so many sound points made that its pointless to list them all; its a very useful book, ultimately for introverts to not bother trying to alter their inclinations too much, and for others to modify their behavior and attitudes to get along better. Its a must read for managers and educators.

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Indoorcamping
Oct 28, 2019

Useful, especially if you haven’t heard the author on a million podcasts (including her own). Otherwise the information is not really all that new. But useful and important if you happen to be an introvert and need justification and instruction for the way you are. It’s easy to read although I could the end tended to drag on a bit. Either that or I got tired of reading about introverts. When you live it, you don’t need it explained. And if you’re old enough, you’ve learned a million coping mechanisms so this isn’t new. But there is so much research and stories and facts and examples and motivating behaviors to help change what you can change and accept what you cannot.

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Inga57
May 15, 2019

Kansas City Downtowners Book Group Read
Reminiscent of material that was my constant companion for thirty years of my career, Quiet, brought me back to Personal Development Trainers Zig Ziglar, Tommy Hopkins, Wayne Dyer, Dennis Waitley, etc. Whether it was via tapes in my car, live seminars, or the books on my nightstand; positive extrovert energy was my working mantra for this then introvert gal. "Fake it till you make it" is a Zig Ziglar lesson that has stayed with me for many, many years.

As Cain teaches in Quiet, the lessons of Dale Carnegie can be acquired if a person is a complaint enough. Practice, rehearse, work it, make it believable, even when you would rather be in your own room sitting with your cats and reading books in complete silence.

Well researched, well written, buy the book, highlight passages that resonate with you, and take advantage of the resources the author has supplied. But keep in mind that the world needs both introverts and extroverts and those of us right in the middle.

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ArapahoeMaryA Oct 31, 2019

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

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andreareads
Aug 17, 2015

We perceive talkers as smarter than quiet types – even though grade-point averages and SAT and intelligence test scores reveal this perception to be inaccurate. In one experiment in which two strangers met over the phone, those who spoke more were considered more intelligent, better looking, and more likable.

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

Probably the most common – and damaging - misunderstanding about personality type is that introverts are antisocial and extroverts are pro-social. But as we’ve seen, neither formulation is correct; introverts and extroverts are _differently_ social. What psychologists call “the need for intimacy” is present in introverts and extroverts alike. In fact, people who value intimacy highly don’t tend to be, as the noted psychologist David Buss puts it, “the loud, outgoing, life-of-the-party extrovert.” They are more likely to be someone with a select group of close friends, who prefers “sincere and meaningful conversations over wild parties.”

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory. They’re associated with high staff turnover. They make people sick, hostile, unmotivated, and insecure. Open-plan workers are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure and elevated stress levels and to get the flu; they argue more with their colleagues; they worry about coworkers eavesdropping on their phone calls and spying on their computer screens.

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

We tend to forget that there’s nothing sacrosanct about learning in large group classrooms, and that we organize students this way not because it’s the best way to learn but because it’s cost-efficient, and what else would we do with our children while the grown-ups are at work? If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the prevailing model.

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Jmarie22
Jun 13, 2014

"Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to."

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