Going Gray

Going Gray

What I Learned About Beauty, Sex, Work, Motherhood, Authenticity, and Everything Else That Really Matters

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A provocative evaluation of modern issues related to aging describes the author's decision to stop fighting the aging process and discusses interviews and experiments she conducted to address key questions about midlife sexuality and age discrimination.

Hachette Book Group
Anne Kreamer considered herself a youthful 49 until a photo of herself with her teenage daughter stopped her in her tracks. In one unguarded moment she saw herself for what she really was -- a middle-aged woman with her hair dyed much too harshly. In that one moment Kreamer realized that she wasn't fooling anyone about her age and decided it was time to get real and embrace a more authentic life. She set out for herself a program to let her hair become its true color, and along the way discovered her true self.
Going Gray is Kreamer's exploration of that experience, and a frank, warm and funny investigation of aging as a female obsession. Through interviews, field experiments, and her own everywoman's chronicle, Kreamer probes the issues behind two of the biggest fears aging women face: Can I be sexually attractive as a gray-haired, middle-aged woman? and Will I be discriminated against in the work world? Her answers will surprise you.
In searching for the balance between attractiveness and authenticity, Kreamer's journey of middle-aging illiminates in a friendly, useful, and entertaining way the politics and personal costs of this generation's definition of "aging gracefully.

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A provocative evaluation of modern issues related to aging describes the author's decision to stop fighting the aging process through cosmetic efforts and celebrate aging with wisdom and grace, an effort during which she conducted interviews and experiments to address key questions about midlife sexuality and age discrimination. 50,000 first printing.

Publisher: New York, N.Y. : Little, Brown and Company, c2007
Edition: 1st ed
Description: 209 p. ; 22cm
ISBN: 9780316166614
Branch Call Number: 305.2442 Kre


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Feb 12, 2017

Once again - Marketing! That's what got us all - slaves to the hair dye and fashion industry. Buying into manufactured lies that aging skin, graying hair is unattractive. Anne Kreamer candidly peels away the layers of denial to uncover a new truth about become an older beautiful woman. A story of acceptance just as she is. We all grow older and we all age. Men do so sans makeup, hair dye. Why can't we woman? Let's simplify and free ourselves from cumbersome, expensive, culturally-self-imposed, unnecessary so-call beauty rituals. Lets celebrate the natural phases. Let us have self-acceptance and confidence just as we are.

May 15, 2016

A much-needed questioning of the assumption that women need to color their hair. Did you know that on average coloring one's hair makes a person look only 3 years younger?

Nov 01, 2015

A candid personal exploration of what it means to go gray -- and go against the societal norm. Kramer discovers that being honest with herself truly is skin-and-hair deep as she learns as she pursues this project -- and realizes that in 24 years of hair-coloring, she could have saved some $65,000 - which could have taken a bite out of her daughters' college costs! Not to mention all those hours. This book is worth your time!

Fred08_1 Aug 25, 2014

excellent alternatives for looking good

please check out the video to the right for tips on growing hair

Oct 22, 2013

This book was not a very good read. The author repeats herself several times through the chapters. In some cases she literally used the same sentence in different chapters and in other cases she repeats her ideas. I am surprised that this book was published at all.

It seems more like a few years worth of unedited journal entries than a book for public consumption.

I resorted to scanning through the book rather than reading it properly and was glad I did so because it lacks content, style, ....

I am sure it was a good exercise for the author to write a book and I think that is worth congratulating her for.

Don't waste your time with this book though.

Sep 06, 2012

Now in my 51st year, I decided it was time to "transition" and found this book inspiring. Kreamer articulated much of what I was trying to say to myself as I worked through the emotional and societal issues of being a woman who decides to "let herself go" (my mother in law's words).

Apr 19, 2012

This would've made a good magazine article; it's a bit tedious book length. The author makes some good points and details her interviewing and research about contemporary attitudes toward middle-aged and older women with gray or white hair. She discusses the pressure on women to stay as young-looking as possible in Hollywood, in LA, in politics and in business etc. The author occasionally irritated me by referring to breasts as boobs (I thought the book was about being mature) and referring to Ronald Reagan's administration as a time when he "blithely and belovedly presided over the country..." Belovedly?? Not in my experience!!! Anyway, back to the book... it's redundant after awhile and I confess I didn't read past page 135. The take home point was enjoy your gray or white hair; wear it proudly and the culture will change. Join the club; I have.

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