Difficult Mothers

Difficult Mothers

Understanding and Overcoming Their Power

Book - 2012
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Baker & Taylor
A psychologist describes the five different types of difficult mothers, including angry, controlling, narcissistic, envious and emotionally neglectful and explains how adults can still suffer from these negative relationships and how they can overcome the challenges of their complex feelings. 15,000 first printing.

Norton Pub
An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters.
Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother—the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother—and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.

Book News
In this self-help book for general readers, Apter, a psychologist affiliated with Cambridge University, describes common emotional behavior patterns of five types of difficult mothers: angry, controlling, narcissistic, envious, and emotionally unavailable. Writing in plain language, she looks at recent research in attachment, developmental psychology, and neuroscience that helps explain how children form emotional bonds with their mothers and why a mother's role remains central in our emotional makeup, even as adults. Each chapter contains 'emotional audits' to evaluate the reader's assumptions and feelings. There is also a chapter on how to tell if you are a difficult mother, with a useful list of common mental and emotional tactics for maintaining lack of insight. The final chapter offers advice on overcoming a difficult mother's power. The author has written other self-help books. Annotation ©2012 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)

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Describes the five different types of difficult mothers, explains how adults can still suffer from negative relationships with their mothers, and how people can overcome the challenges of their complex feelings.

Publisher: New York : W.W. Norton & Co., c2012
Edition: 1st ed
Description: xvi, 238 p. ; 22 cm
ISBN: 9780393081022
Branch Call Number: 155.924 Apt


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Dec 08, 2015

This book was a revelation for me, and a strange, oddly thrilling find. I came across it quite by accident but was hooked by the title and could barely put it down once I began reading it. I read with amusement and sadness the various interviewees' recollections of their moms, finding myself dumbstruck and hugely relieved that someone else out there had gone through the same (or at least strikingly similar) things that I had.

Though it's not a requirement, I do agree that readers may want to have this book in hand while a therapist is helping them come to terms with all those memories and powerfully mixed emotions.

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